Very recently, there was a potential love interest: a cute guy who loves Jesus was interested in me. I tried to contain myself, but in some ways the strongest feeling was relief. FINALLY, it’s MY turn. I thought of all the younger women who have had their chance before me. Finally, I get to join the “club” and it felt great. Hope was restored.
Then, whether it is for the best or not, it didn’t work out. “Disappointed” is a mild term for how I felt after my hopes were dashed yet again. I’m not saying all that came to the surface was good, but so many questions came. Anyone else know what I’m talking about?
If I were speaking to anyone but myself in this situation, I would want to remind my friend of a few things. So, to all my single friends (myself included), let’s celebrate a bit of truth today.
In the moments when it’s hard to be single, when life seems so unfair:
- You are valuable just as you are today.
- Your singleness is not a punishment.
- You are beautiful. You are enough.
- You are not more important when married, despite how it may feel in Christian culture.
- I don’t know why you are still unmarried, but you–wonderful you–have so much to offer this world.
- Live your life. Don’t wait to make it great for when/if you have a significant other. Make it great today!
There is much to celebrate in this life. Let’s help each other not to forget it. What encouragement would you add?
I agree that singleness is something to be enjoyed. I have plenty of married friends that look back and wish they had enjoyed the single part of life rather than stressing about finding someone. Sure, it is ok to want to be married, but travel, have super close friends, be an awesome and attentive aunt or uncle, learn a few languages and experience different cultures. 😉